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Simple tips to boost your self-care

Self-care is all the rage, especially on social media. But what actually is self-care – apart from a trendy buzzword?

Text: Arthur Matthys; photo: Sebastian Doerk

What is self-care?

Self-care was practised as far back as ancient Greece. Apparently, even in ancient times it was important to take time for yourself alongside your professional life and personal obligations. The idea is to spend time and energy in strengthening and improving yourself in order to be able to better tackle the challenges of daily life. Even today, it is understood to mean caring for yourself in body and mind. This includes being aware of your own needs and treating yourself with love and consideration.

The 3-2-1 method

That’s all well and good, but how do you fit self-care into your busy daily routine? One simple way to get started with self-care is to use the 3-2-1 method. The numbers indicate how often you should do an activity based on your own needs. For example:

  • Stand up and move a little three times during the working day
  • Incorporate two habits into your daily routine that make you feel good, such as reading or taking a short walk in the park
  • Do one activity a day for your body. For instance, exercising in a sports club, dancing to your favourite music or going to bed a little earlier

It is important that you adapt the activities to suit you. Just because meditation helps your best friend relax, it doesn’t mean that it will have the same effect on you. Perhaps you’re someone who finds it easier to de-stress while doing sport or playing music. Or reading a thriller.

Simple tips for more self-care

Dr Walter Bierbauer, senior researcher in the Department of Psychology at the University of Zurich, explains how self-care works:

Exercise

“If I had to prescribe a single self-care activity for the whole population, it would be exercise. It’s essential for the body and the mind, because it releases happiness hormones, to name just one of the benefits,” explains Walter Bierbauer. If you spend a lot of time sitting in front of a computer at the office, you should take breaks as often as possible. So, stand up, go to the coffee machine and then walk back to your desk. If you can raise your desk, you should work standing several times a day.

Social interaction

“Social interaction is often neglected, especially during middle age, when family or career tend to take priority. But it’s is a crucial part of healthy self-care,” says Bierbauer. Having regular social contact can help reduce stress, boost self-esteem and increase your sense of belonging. Maintaining friendships or making friends in a club is a good start.

Hobbies

Hobbies can also help boost your well-being in everyday life, such as learning a new language or a musical instrument, reading, or cooking a meal with your partner. This helps you take a step back from the stress of everyday life.

Take time out

Going full out during the week and only recharging at the weekend or on holiday means that you’re tired again as soon as daily life starts over. Walter Bierbauer explains why that’s the case: “We don’t have a battery that drains and is recharged after a vacation.” That’s why it’s important to integrate relaxing activities into everyday life.

Plan and combine

It’s not always easy to prioritise self-care when you’re already juggling work and home life. Particularly when you’re starting out in self-care, it can help to enter self-care appointments in your calendar. “These appointments don’t have to be fixed rigidly at the same time every day,” says Bierbauer. It is much more important that you make time for yourself whenever you can.

You can even combine several self-care methods to save time. For example, you could have an after-work beer with friends after taking a walk around the lake. This way, you can easily mix social interaction with a little exercise.

Misconceptions common to self-care

In social media, self-care practices are often “prescribed” like medication. Meditating, journalling and mindfulness may help some people relax, but for others it can feel like a punishment and cause even more stress in daily life.

Part of the self-care journey is finding out what you like. And sometimes it takes a bit longer to find recreational activities that do you good. But don’t let that put you off. And: recovery is not the same as relaxation. “For many people, recovery means taking a bubble bath or watching a series on the sofa in the evening. But research shows that effective recovery tends to be more active,” says Bierbauer. He adds: “There’s nothing wrong with relaxation. There’s definitely a place for it, but activities can produce a greater physical and mental recovery effect.”

About the expert

Dr Walter Bierbauer works as a senior researcher in the Department of Psychology at the University of Zurich. His research focuses on the topics of changing health behaviour and stress and disease management.  

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